I heard someone suggest that online bullying isn’t real. Of course online bullying is real. We are human beings and no matter what technology is invented, like literally every other thing in life, some of us are going to act like arrogant fools and others will act civilly.
I do think some people invite bullies in because of the way they act, but generally speaking, no one deserves to be bullied. I think we all knew that kid in school that acted in such a way that practically invited people to tease them – even people that typically weren’t bullies – but the truth is also that if you are a person living your life authentically, you are going to have people that hate you. That’s the price to living an authentic life and it’s a price that most people are not willing to pay.
People love to wax poetic about how everyone should strive to "live authentically" but no one really talks about the fact that when you do that, you open yourself up to people that will strike at that vulnerability (and living authentically means being vulnerable). The upside to living a real life (meaning you are an outward expression of more than just your socially acceptable persona) is that you will have many people that adore you. And you must live authentically if you want to ever be happy. Being happy and being hated are not mutually exclusive.
I think that what it says about our society that we’ve gone from physical bullying to digital is that people just feel more free to let their dark sides out online because it’s anonymous. I think it’s pathetic because these trolls in real life are most likely polite and “friendly” milquetoasts with their seething resentments hidden under their surface personas.
These types of personalities have always existed in our world, now they just have a place to let their pent up resentments and insecurities out, unrestrained by responsibility and identity. Trolls are of the weakest beings because they betray their very identities and selves every time they make an anonymous hate comment.
If you’re going to hate online, at least put the power of your actual name behind it so at least you can have some self-respect - no matter how paltry that respect actually is.