I own a three-tier necklace. I adore it, yet it annoys me because it's constantly getting tangled, mangled, and impossibly knotted up into itself. The necklace has been hibernating in my jewelry tray for months in a state of twisted irritation, taunting me. As I'm getting dressed and want a piece of jewelry to complete my outfit, I'll glance over at it, yet quickly discard it as an option due to the ridiculous gnarl of clusterfuckery in which it exists. I've considered throwing it out because it seems like a lost cause - I've tried several times to untangle it to no avail.
Flash back a couple days ago to a thought I had unrelated to the necklace: "the brain is lazy, it only wants to flow down the path of least resistance, gravitating toward what it already knows." (What I'm talking about is once the brain has formed a neural pathway, it will use that pathway until its forced - by you, the owner of said brain - to create a new one. And creating new pathways isn't comfortable, easy or for the impatient person. Why do you think it can be so frustrating to learn something new?) I can't remember where I heard this sentiment for the first time but now I keep seeing experiences in my life through the lens of this notion. In this case, the necklace seems impossibly twisted, but is it really only my brain being lazy in finding a way to extricate it from its current state of convoluted knottery? (and I am aware that knottery isn't a word, but I like it and this is my blog, so...)
I sat down with the necklace accompanied with the thought that my brain is lazy and will always gravitate toward the easiest path. As I sat and worked, a technique emerged and in less than 10 minutes, the necklace was tangle-free and was adorning my neck. All it took was for me to open my mind that there may be another possibility that wasn't readily apparent, and what do you know? That possibility emerged.
Perhaps the necklace is a trifling analogy for a weighty notion such as this, yet it's an apt parallel nonetheless: expanded out to a broader context, it appears that no matter how unattainable or difficult a situation, a goal, or a person seems, there is always a way out, always a way through, there is always an answer - and many times, it is a solution that we don't think about right away. Part of the human condition is that we only see possibilities based on what we've known in the past or the present. The brain keeps flowing toward what it already knows...which isn't always a good thing, because then you keep getting the same thing you've always gotten, maybe in different forms, but with the same energy always at its core. The brain may be lazy and flow to what it already knows and consistently leaning toward the path of least resistence, but that also means that I can train it to a new thing, form new pathways - new and better "lazy, easy roadmaps" for it to fire up.
Life is full of promise no matter how inconceivable, frustrating or annoying situations or people may appear. I can do anything. I can be anyone. What can I do with this? Anything. Let me forgive that long-held grudge that seems impossible to let go of, let me expand outside my very-comfortable-and-safe zone to live in a space that seems incredible yet out-of-reach, let me actually be the person I've always dreamed I could be instead of the person everyone has told me to be - I can and will make these things mine even though it's "impossible" right now.